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7Mar/118

The Curvy Vs. Fat Debate: A Man’s Point of View

by Dr. Boyce Watkins

Ashley Patrice Williams at AOL Black Voices recently wrote an article on the difference between being curvy and fat.  I am not going to get into the business of telling beautiful black women how to carry their weight (there’s already too much scrutiny in media making women self-conscious about their bodies), but most of us can agree that no one carries a few extra pounds the way a black woman can.

Two things come to mind in the curvy vs. fat debate.  First, there’s a difference between looking good and being healthy.  So, as wonderful as “sistuhs” might look with a little bit of extra “junk in the trunk,” we must always be cognizant of the wide variety of illnesses that plague our community that result from eating so much salt, fat, sugar and all the other things that keep killing us.  Big Momma’s Sweet Tea and fried chicken might taste better than candy, but Big Momma and her husband also died from cardiac arrest and diabetes.

Secondly (this is the man in me talking here), I find that in many cases, women and men see the curvy vs. fat measuring stick in different ways.  What many women might consider to be curvy is what some men might consider to be fat (you can reference the debate in the movie “Barbershop” over a “woman with a big ass,” and a “big ass woman”).  There is something keen about a man’s instinctual understanding of the importance of physical ratios that allows him to pick up on precisely the right hip-to-waist ratio that makes a woman appealing.  For example, there’s a big difference between how men might perceive Jill Scott (above) vs. how they might look at Toccarra Jones from America’s Next Top Model (below).  While both women are undeniably beautiful, their physical attributes might lead them to attract different kinds of men (this is without regard to their personalities, for we all know men are quite visual, at least initially).

With that being said, there is no woman as beautiful as the black woman, hands down.  In all shapes and sizes, black women always give you something to appreciate.  It is also important to remember that inner beauty is what matters the most, so we must all work on maintaining the shape of our soul.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition.  To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

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  1. I generally respect your opinion, but I have to admit I can’t stand when people make such divisive comments: “there is no woman as beautiful as the black woman, hands down.”

    I don’t think you would like it if someone said that the most beautiful women are white women, or Asian women, or Arab women, or Latino women, etc, etc, etc.

    There are beautiful and unattractive women in every race/ethnicity – your proclamations are a true disappointment.

  2. You know Dr. Watkins, this subject would normally start a huge group of women to comment. I had this happen to me when I said that no woman should be under 6 feet tall and over 200 pounds. I don’t believe that I know what 200 pounds looks like after reading the Facebook comments that I made on a person whose women in that family may fit that description. Maybe I should have written that no women should be over 250 pounds and under 6 feet tall.

    • Thanks for taking a few miunets to go over this, I find myself strongly regarding it and love learning more on this topic. If at all, since you gain expertise, does one mind updating your blog with extra information? It is rather ideal for me.

  3. I see. So if you don’t like our comment, you just won’t post it.

  4. Well said, well said!

    Still we need to push back hard against obesity and poor living habits!

    I’m a big guy, but fit and trim at 6′ 4″, 220 lbs and I work at maintaining that via exercise, a good diet and an active mind with diverse interests.

    I don’t think any Black man likes any woman who looks like an NFL lineman!

  5. Bwahahahah, NFL lineman.

    Where’s the content to this story though?

  6. As a white woman, I have to agree that black women look better with extra pounds than white woman do!

  7. Howdy just wanted to give you a quick heads up and let you know a few of the pictures aren’t loading properly. I’m not sure why but I think its a linking issue. I’ve tried it in two different browsers and both show the same results.


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